In your mind, it sounds simple enough to ask for a prenuptial agreement. You share your thoughts with your partner, they agree and you move forward with the creation of this legal document.
But then something happens. As you prepare to ask for a prenuptial agreement, you come to find that you don’t know what to say or how to say it. And worse yet, you have concerns about how your partner will react.
It can be complicated to ask for a prenuptial agreement, but here are some tips to help put your mind at ease.
- Never issue demands: When discussing a prenuptial agreement, both of you should freely and openly share your thoughts and concerns. When you issue demands, your partner may begin to feel that you’re pressuring them into something they don’t want to do. This will eventually push them away, which could affect the health of your relationship.
- Talk about your fears: It’s not typically good enough to tell your partner that you want a prenuptial agreement. You need to back it up with sound reasoning, which often includes a run down of your fears. A common example is fear that you won’t be able to provide for your children from a previous relationship should you go through divorce in the future.
- Don’t let your emotions get the best of you: There will be times when you feel like crying, times when you feel like arguing and times when you feel like you’ve finally reached a resolution. It’s okay to show emotions, but don’t let them overcome you to the point of guiding your thinking.
- Take your time: Give yourself plenty of time before the first time you discuss a prenuptial agreement and your wedding day. This allows you to spread out the conversation over several days, weeks or even months.
Even if you and your partner agree on the importance of creating a prenuptial agreement, it doesn’t necessarily mean that asking for one and working through the details will be a simple and efficient process.
If you’re ready to discuss a potential prenuptial agreement, plan out what you want to say and learn more about the legal process for creating this document. The way you prepare will impact the way the conversation unfolds.